Struggles

I am linking up with Andrea today to discuss our current struggles. I think this is a fantastic topic for today’s link up. It is so easy to only talk about the fun things that are happening in our lives. I know that I am guilty of showing more of the fun stuff than the less than fun stuff. In my head, I don’t like to focus on those things. I try to put all of my energy into the positive and I really think that helps immensely in my overall happiness.

Do I have struggles? Of course! But I also try to keep my life as low stress as possible. To me that means that when I am faced with a challenge, I handle it, and I move on. This method might not work for others and it surely doesn’t work for some of the more major life challenges.

One on one time with the kids: Because of our work schedules, either I have both boys or Kevin has both boys. The only day we get all together is Sunday and we usually do something fun as a family. The boys are ALWAYS together. This leads to sibling fights and some regrets that I can’t spend one on one time with them. The tough part is, we have created our schedules this way so that one of us is done work between 1-3 everyday. For working parents, we get a lot of time with the boys, just not one on one.

Making all the rooms clean at the same time: I think I do a pretty darn good job of keeping my house clean all things considered. But, we have two little kids who snack all.day.long. so there are always crumbs. There are always finger prints on the backdoor and laundry that is folded but not put away. I try to keep up, but our house is a decent size so its a LOT of cleaning, and those boys can be TORNADOES.

Staying up late: By the time the kids go to bed, I am spent. I really want to stay up later and get things accomplished around the house. I’d even like to hang out on the couch and watch TV that is NOT Moana for the 35465874th time. I generally clean up the dishes and straighten the living room after the kids go to bed. Then I hop into bed and turn on Netflix. I’m asleep before I even pick which show to watch.

Healthy meals vs. comfort meals: I love to cook, but more than that: I like people to like what I cook them. This is a slippery slope because the best foods aren’t exactly the healthiest foods. I find myself making yummy lasagnas and other cheese laden dinners rather than keeping it light and healthy.

My big one….

Fun vs. spoiling: I love to have fun with the boys. I love to go fun places and experience new things through their eyes. I love to bake treats all the time and hit up every kid centered place in the tri-state area. But sometimes (all the time) I worry that it may be too much and that they won’t appreciate the things we do for them. Growing up my Dad worked a ton but every Sunday was family day where we would go on a fun adventure together. They are treasured memories for me but I worry that the boys won’t see the things we do as special because we are always up to something.

On the other hand I think that I am making their childhood magical and that is a GOOD thing. I only buy them toys for birthdays and Christmas so they are not inundated with shopping and “things”, we are just always having fun. I wish I could figure this one out.

 

7 Comments

  • Reply Allie @ agalnamedal.com June 13, 2017 at 5:55 am

    I have all of these problems except for spoiling! Why is comfort food so bad for us- agh! I’m going to get an entire weekend with just Trip soon, and I’m very excited! The kids definitely need one on one time, and that’s especially hard in the summer. Have a great Tuesday!

  • Reply Holly Breton at Pink Lady June 13, 2017 at 5:55 am

    You are doing such a great job Tara! These are struggles I share with you- thanks for putting it out there

  • Reply Cara June 13, 2017 at 7:33 am

    Agree with all of this! I just started a one on one date with each of my girls on Sundays. I have really enjoyed this time with each of them, and at their ages (16,14, 11) it’s so important!

    You are creating wonderful memories for your boys!!

  • Reply Stephanie June 13, 2017 at 8:14 am

    I love this list and your honesty! I feel you on keeping all the rooms clean! haha

  • Reply Lisa June 13, 2017 at 11:06 am

    Oh you are so sweet Tara. Your open heart is truly evident in this post. Life is a balance and I really think you’re doing a great job. Live in the moment. That’s a super hard thing to do especially in the throws of having younger children. Being on the other side of that I can now look back and see it. There’s no shame in your game of being tired at the end of the day. Staying one step ahead of those little guys is exhausting. Kiss them and cuddle them now because believe me, it will not last forever. (but they will come back around, I’m seeing it in my 22 year old son and now that he will give me a good hug again it’s the best!)

  • Reply Erin Port June 13, 2017 at 9:41 pm

    Oh my goodness when you said keep all your rooms clean at the same time – amen! I try to have it all sem-picked up at days end but there is a family that lives here and I have to remember that all the time! Loved each of these things and your sweet heart 🙂 xoxo ERIN

  • Reply Laura June 13, 2017 at 10:01 pm

    I’m right on board with every single one of your struggles. You are definitely not alone! Thanks for sharing. 🙂

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