I’m here today to ask all the Mamas out there how they handle sibling arguments. My guys are still little and, while I know that all siblings fight sometimes, I want to set the ground rules for fighting fair. I know that for a child, your family is a microcosm for the entire world and that the skills and values we instill now are going to carry them for the rest of their lives.
SOOO many people have told me the boys are just being little boys and are going to fight and that I just have to accept it. I do accept that arguments between the two of them are going to happen but I want to know 1) how to teach them to properly deal with conflict and 2) when do I step in?
One day I asked Kevin’s older brother when the fights between the two of them died down. His response: “We continue to fight to this day.” A couple weeks later I was talking to one of Kevin’s cousins who is close in age to his own brother the same question. He told me “Well, I just saw my brother last week soooo…maybe a week ago?”. These answers aren’t giving me much hope, lol.
Our kids’ arguments are never too serious; someone takes a toy the other was playing with, someone is cranky and starts saying random things to annoy the other (i.e. telling them repeatedly that their toy is green when its actually blue, telling them that we are going to Target instead after I promised them a trip to Grammy’s house). But I supposed that it is serious to them and they get upset and feelings are hurt. Also, it upsets me when I see them being unkind to each other. For the most part, the two have an incredible and loving bond. But when they decide to start squabbling…ughh!
I know that I should let them work out their issues and develop strategies for conflict resolution but I also want my kids to get along and I want to foster a loving relationship between the two of them.
So lay it on me moms. What’s your best advice for sibling squabbles when your kids are little? When do you step in and what do you say?